Monday, June 11, 2007

To Dwell, or not to Dwell?

I think us humans like to dwell in situations. Especially us girls; even though they offer us a solution, we do not want to take it because we like the pain and we like to feel sad. When I dwell I stop eating and just have two meals per day and maybe one bottle of water. However, I can go to the other extreme and start eating all sorts of sweets and just cry my eyes out while I am eating a tres leches cake. I probably even start talking to myself and wave my fork in the air and start to ask “Why? Why is this happening?” I think sometimes girls can get a little looney in how they dwell with things. We forget that we have other people living with us and actually care and wants to see us get better. We forget about everyone and concentrate on the situation that is consuming our lives.

I was sitting outside of a high school office one time and started reading a poster that was in front of me. It talked about attitude; any conflict was only 10% and the way we reacted to it was 90%. I think the poster was secretly insinuating that 90% of what was wrong with the world was our attitudes. I believe it is true. Another time I heard a person say (maybe he got it out of a poster as well) that we should concentrate on the 95% good tings that happen in our day, and that the other bad 5% shouldn’t ruin it. I thought about that…how sometimes people fall asleep crying because they dwelled in the 5% that happened that day and slowly but surely managed the bad to rise up to 50%.

Our attitude can either bring death or life to a situation, or even a person. How we deal with conflicts, how we deal with situations all depend on our attitudes. Ladies and gentlemen, will we choose to be selfish with our attitudes? Or can we actually motivate ourselves to be unselfish and actually think about the other person’s day and how they are handling their 5%?

I hope next time we want to dwell in a situation, or want to make a rude remark, we should check our attitudes and dwell better yet in the 90%, along with our brothers and sisters.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I thought you said you were gonna be blunt? Maybe it is but I have thick skin or something?

Anonymous said...

Oops forgot to say that I agree. I notice when I have a bad attitude things in a room sway b/c people look up to me. When I have a great attitude the opposite. Weird how that works! But I guess it just goes to show how much you can impact people on a day to day basis without even trying!

Anonymous said...

i think the reason many ppl dwell on the 5% is because that little percent of their day was what they looked up to most. what they wanted is what killed it. what they were hoping to see a change in or hoping that maybe that part of the day would be, was not exactly what they expected. like suppose they were hoping something different from a person, or family member, or anyone they interact with. its happend to me how some things like this happen, the whole day is ruined (according to my brain...) because i dwell in the thoughts of how i wanted it, and how it didnt happen the way it could have been, should of, and possibly how much horrible the situation went; deeper.

i do agree with u on not letting the other 90% be a waste. ofcourse not. life is full of blessings and if we start to be selfish thinking of how things could have been or wanted...well thats the reason they didnt happen; our own selfish desires. God wants us to find happiness in the blessings he gives us. we shouldnt cancel them out because life took a twist.

but then again, life is what it is, its up to us to live it how God wants us too. and its not always bad to cry about things and reflect on them, its only humanly natural. ive come to know that not letting it all get to ur head helps...just let God take control and that seems to ease my mind, and in the end, when all is dependent on our Heavenly Father, it all gets better (somehow...which is mysterious...but it does).

one should ask themself if they like dwelling in the emo... :D