So what is wrong? And what is right?

"Rules Without Relationship Leads To Rebellion"

I have observed how believers think something is wrong, like listening to secular music, or going to a club; how, or why have Christians come to the conclusion that such things are not good, therefore wrong? I have come to meet many Christians who think that certain things don't really matter, like social drinking. Some Christians think hat it's ok as long as you don't abuse it; and i have met others who don't take a sip of alcohol because "It may lead to other things". So who is right? and who is wrong? Honestly...i don't know; however, i have two answers: Lordship and John 17.
Let me explain--
Lordship: When you have Jesus as the integration point (anything that your life revolves around of) of your life, then you will want to do everything according to His will, am i right? The bible says in Galatians 2:20 "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me". We are dead to ourselves and alive for Him. In other words He is Lord of your life and He is your integration point.
So what does this have to do with whether going to the clubs is wrong or not you say? Well it has everything to do with it. If as a Christian you truly have a real relationship with Christ you will not be guided by rules but by spiritual rules that can only be understood if you have a relationship with Him, because otherwise how are we to know what offends the Lord or not? Someone once said that we as Christians view life as Jesus being on top of the Pole and our other important things in life go down the pole according to their importance in our life (ex. family, b/f, friends). Christians think that Jesus has to be on top of the pole, he is #1, however, what Lordship truly means is that Jesus IS the pole, and every other priority REVOLVES around the pole= Jesus. So how do we know if what we are doing is right or wrong? Well may very well ask ourselves this question, "is what i am doing revolving around Him?"

John 17: This is a prayer chapter. In this chapter Jesus was praying before he was crucified for his disciples. My second answer is found in this chapter. John 17:20,21 says,
"My Prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be ONE, father, just as you are in me and I am in you."

My Second answer is fairly easy...many people claim to be Christians but in truth they don't "walk the talk". My second answer is being one with the body of Christ. Our convictions (as believers) will be the same as another if our hearts are truly aligned with the Lord. If we are dead to ourselves and alive for Jesus, then we are one (in unity) with the rest of His bride (here on earth). I find it truly amazing that in this chapter Jesus was thinking about me. He said "for those who will believe" meaning us ,now at this present age as well! If Jesus is truly the Lord of my life then my convictions will be similar to another person who has Jesus as their integration point. So what is wrong? And what is right? I would say, Is this something revolved around Jesus? How about , is it something that is consistent with the Church (His bride)? Are we being "one" with other believers when we do whatever we are questioning about? If Your heart is truly aligned with Him, these questions should be fairly easy to answer.