A rebuke for men, as well as Women.

I will be talking on the basis of being a gentlemen for men, and on the subject of letting ourselves be served, ladies.

The only cause of conflict in the world is selfishness. Think about it, Eve , when she committed sin was being selfish because she wanted to be better than God. She wanted to be like God. Hence, world hunger, prostitution, global warming is because someone along the line decided to be selfish. We make our own criminals, we decide that lust is better than having a settled home and we treat this earth as if it will remain the same forever.
So guess what? Besides sin/ selfishness entering through one man, the main cause why men are not aware of their role, and women are not aware of how they should be treated, is because of broken homes and apathetic relationships between parents and their children.

Let me speak to the men first. Men, you are the head of the household and whatever happens to the head will affect the body, which is his family. Men, you are not to be apathetic in your relationships with women; you are to be the example and provider of your future or present family.
Just because you are single does not mean that you are not to practice your “gentle-manhood” in your present stage in life. I believe that as a young man you are responsible to every woman in your life.
Now going back to the 'home'; this is where Satan mainly attacks. This is because if he can destroy children, then he can destroy the future generation. I heard a story once about a man who told his daughter she was not allowed to date until she was 16 years old. When the daughter came to be 16, her father told her, “I know you are now 16 and you are going to want to go on a date, but may I be your first date?” The daughter smiled and said, “of course dad.”

On that special night the father dressed up nicely and went up and knocked on his daughter's door; he did not want any other punk honking at his daughter to get out of her house. The daughter opened the door and her father greeted her asking for her mother (which was also his wife ). He introduced himself and told his daughter's mother the place where they were going to be at and at what time they were expected to be back. The mother consented to the 'date; and both father and daughter went ahead to enjoy the first date. In the car a rose was waiting for her and they preceded to have a great time at a fancy restaurant. Then he brought her home and walked her all the way to the door and hence completed the task he was hoping for.

The reason I say this story is because this man wanted to make sure that his daughter knew how to be treated. He wanted her to set a high standard for herself. The man later on said that his daughter had many first dates, but not many second dates....

Men are so passive now a days... what happened to men who are willing to love their wives as Jesus loves the church? One of the most pathetic things i have seen in my life is when a woman opens the door for a male who goes right through it without appreciation, or without holding the door himself. I think that is PATHETIC. Men...you are initiators, not followers.

Now ladies...
I sympathize with you when out of “humility” you tell a guy “it's ok; you don't have to do that.” when they are trying to help you in any form or fashion.
Just two days ago a female professor on my campus tripped on the floor hallway and was hurt, but not anything serious. One of my fellow classmates saw when she fell down and asked “do you need help?” she was sitting on the floor trying to remain still in order to feel well again. My fellow classmate who is a man, went to help her and with complete “humility” she said “That's fine I can stand up now.” She proceeded then to get up.
Now....ladies, you might think this is being humble but in reality you are being proud and selfish. You are not letting this generation of young men rise up to the plate and take the roll of being leaders and protectors.
In john 13:8 Jesus wants to set the example that he came to serve and not to be served. He went on to wash his disciples feet and when he turns to Peter, Peter replies “NO, YOU SHALL NEVER WASH MY FEET”. Peter thought he was being humble, he thought in his mind that he was not "worthy". but Jesus replies, “unless I wash you, you have no part with me.” Peter did not want Jesus to wash his feet because he knew he, himself wouldn't be willing to do that. So ladies....stop being prideful, and let yourself be served.

The point of this writing is simply to rebuke both men and women to stop being selfish and accept the responsibility of leading and serving.
Men, be initiators and serve the women in your life. Women, take that prideful “humility” of your back and allow the men in your life to serve you.